She is way too attractive and intelligent to stay with this repeat offender. I am sure that she would be better off on her own and setting a strong female example for her daughters

I foresee the inevitable parting when this story cools a bit. The Silda Wall Spitzer goes down. The Silda Wall goes up.

He may be a sex addict. They may not be having sex. We don’t know she didn’t know about it, either. None of it is our business, it’s been a husband and a wife.

Her decision is her decision.

If it was his own money, then public trust doesn’t come into it either.

Let politicians’ sex lives be their own business. For that kind of stuff, I can visit TMZ and read stories, made up and other wise, about celebrities sex lives.

This delving into others’ sex lives is a disgusting modern day trend. Personally, I don’t like feeling like a voyeur.

I feel bad for his family I really do but these big time politicians had better clean up there act but the awful truth is they won’t at least until they get into hot water like this unfortunate soul.

Dr. Laura is correct: Silda may very well share part of the blame for her husband’s actions. Don’t get me wrong–it was he who chose to stray. What I’m saying is that she may have encouraged that behavior by her actions or even by not acting.

It is a well-established fact that men are reluctant to ask their wives for things they really need, suspecting that the cost of such requests far outweigh the potential benefits of the requests. The sad part is that many women behave in a holier-than-thou manner when their husbands are caught trying to satisfy their basic human needs. Sex, right after food and water, is a man’s greatest need. Women do not understand this.

After thing more about, she knows all the underhanded shady deals that go on & she benefited from all of it up until now so she faces it just like he is nothing wrong with that —play u pay

Why are we discussing any of this? Does it concern us? Whether his family is affected by this or not (obviously they are but thats not THE ISSUE), Spitzer essentially appropriated public funds (taxpayer’s money) for his own gratification. (Even if he comes from real estate money, one cannot separate the public funds he used from his own wallet) He broke the law. Thats it. Thats enough. Which court, which jury of peers will try him CRIMINALLY on the charge ‘you hurt the sentiments of your wife?’ Its grounds for divorce, sure. But thats for a CIVIL COURT, NOT A CRIMINAL COURT. How prudish and priggish and muddled Americans are is obvious from all this misdirected attention.

For her 3 daughters’ sake, Silda WS needed to be present on Monday, but why did she bear that cross again on Wednesday? She bolted from their SUV upon return to their Upper East Side residence, rather than waiting for her scoundrel husband. And who can blame her — we are now learning that Spitzer forced himself on that Banking Committee on February 14th, was totally unprepared by all accounts, and therefore traveled mainly for this assignation with Ms. Kristen Williams, no more than 8 years older than the Spitzers’ 17 yo daughter. So sad.

i say dumb the bum and marry jim cramer. hes a nice boy and he woould never hurt a girls feelings.

Silda is a fox. She should dump Eliot and find a real man.

We cannot know the details that she is assessing (and will assess) in choosing the course she deems best for herself and her daughters. I believe she is intelligent and a very capable person, so I trust that she will make her choices carefully and thoughtfully. We should not second-guess her in the course she chooses… doing so would be merely projections of ourselves and our own circumstances into what we perceive of her situation, and as such is not very meaningful.

In response to NYC Mom’s Blog comment that “Their wives that stand by looking dumbfounded as their unfaithful husbands apologize to the public”, did you ever think that it may not just be that they are “looking dumbfounded”, but actually are dumbfounded? Give Silda some credit here. Less than a week ago, this attractive, highly educated, woman found out that her husband on several occassions had sex (possibly unprotected no less)with multiple prostitutes. Who are you to judge her or her decision to stand next to him (for now)?
-Melissa, New York, NY

Silda may be the one to blame. Men get the blame for seeking sex. But what about their partners.

It is not for us to judge what Silda should or shouldn’t do in regards to the decisions she has to make during this troubled time. She needs compassion, not judgements.

I believe that she should have stayed away from both public events. It would be better to think this over and then make a private decision about how you dealt with your husband and his infidelities. There is no need to stand by him in public and imply support, when it is obviously so painful and embarassing. Let him face the consequences alone.

Silda rocks! She’s showing incredible strength through her decency. She’ll figure out what’s her next best move…Silda for Governor!

She is a graduate of Harvard Law, a resident of New York, and a Democrat. That makes her a femminist. Her femminist core value is to tolerate all behaviors.

That gives her husband the permission he needs to do what he does. If she were a conservative, she would have left her husband. I hope she realizes how silly he makes her look.

And then again, femminists are silly, and they don’t know how silly they look.

I honestly to not understand why Mrs Spritzer makes any public appearances with her husband. She should request immediate child and support for herself and throw the BUM out. The feeble excuse of staying with him for the children went out with the dinosaurs. This is a spoiled brat who apparently thinks he can have what ever he wants. Would not be surprised if we were to learn that he has been soliciting hookers since he was a teen ager.

Silda should wait until he inherits his family’s wealth and then go for his jugular.

I think that people condeming are doing so out of what they believe would be their reaction to the same situation. However, some women (perhaps Silda) still care deeply for their spouse. If they think that they are going to work through their problems; why not support him, almost as a gesture of commitment to working this out. Perhaps she felt that it could have been worse, such as Eliot having an affair, which involves an emotional connection to another woman.

I read somewhere that an aide to Spitzer mentioned that his wife wanted him to try to remain in office. This makes me wonder that she may not have really cared what he did, as long as she had the power and prestige that his job provided. If this is true, they deserve each other…and they deserve this sad ending.

I thought most of the women in America admired Hillary for standing by her man — and Clinton preyed upon a relatively helpless intern, not to mention groping various other repectable women, whereas Spitzer’s call girl was paid and chose to do what she did.

Mrs. Spitzer is obviously taking her que from the Jr. Senator of NY; Mrs. Bill Clinton. Monkey see as monkey do. Hey it worked out for Hillary!

I think that is is easy to pass judgement on someone from afar and show lack of empathy towards their situation. She has made far greater sacrifices than most of the people here can imagine. She had a very bright and promising career and gave it for the role of a mother and wife. It appears to me, an observer from an extreme distance, that she is humiliated and very sad. Perhaps the only vendication she has is to stand by him and watch him squirm during the press conferences. I would be willing to bet that he has hell to pay behind closed doors.It is certain that he should.

Unless she broke some law, it is no one’s business what, how or why she does anything.

I am amazed at the plethora of opinions and declarations based on speculation and incomplete information. No one knows the whole story, probably not even Silda. I am even more amazed at the rude and negative commentary in regard to this story. Where’s the compassion for another person’s suffering, and who cares whose fault it is?!

I don’t think Ms. Wall Spitzer’s decisions are public domain in any way. She has the right to make decisions about her actions and we are in no place to criticize her. In fact, the only part of this entire scandal that is public domain is the illegality of Governor Spitzer’s actions.

Yeah, $1,000 is about the right price for spending any time — let alone an hour - with this pouting, childish, selfish, arrogant fool. The pouting picture says it all: “I got caught with my hand (or something worse) in the cookie jar. But I would do it again in a New York minute!”

Great judgment: just the kind guy I want running my state!

Adultery and Prostitution are crimes. Private or public decisions to commit crimes are criminal, not civil, acts. It’s the law. And law breaking but not enforcing is thus lawlessness sold as lawfulness under rule of law. Thanks.

She might as well hang out for the money. Her looks are wearing off (certainly in comparison to the hottie Elliot rented!) and she’s too old to restart a career. She can divorce him after the dust settles and live quite well.

She should have kicked him in the balls

Not quite sure where her SELF-PRIDE is. How could she or any women stand in public next to her husband that has treated her like that. I feel for her. Hopefully she will gain confidence in herself through this, and tell him where to go. She will be better off.

Apparently he broke a law, if that is the case, resignation may be appropriate.

Beyond that, why does anyone think their family business should be a topic of public discussion, any more than the family business of my neighbors down the street?

I imagine she is stunned and certainly not ready to make any decisions about the future. For the moment they are together, still a family and presenting a united face to the public. Those of this who are married do this everyday, no matter the private challenges were are working through in our marriages. Why should she behave differently.

That said, it would be nice if he were gallant enough to not ask her to deal with the public and press at this moment.

She definitely should not have stood by him. Wives don’t stand by their political husbands during any other press conferences, so why should they be required to show up to these? Plus, if the tables were turned and the indescretion was on the wife’s side, how many men do you think would actually stand by their women at a press conference?

You were losing weight, picking fights with me
Didn’t care enough, to look guilty
But I waved with you, on the stage
Pretending not to know about Heather and Paige
And Jenny and Drew “Miss Tattooed Barbwire”
I wasn’t even threatened by her
If I can believe him you can too
He’s the best man to represent you.

Chorus: I’m done takin’ my time, waitin’ for you to stop foolin’ around, now I know what to do.
It’s amazing what you’ll take
When your status quo’s at stake

It’s the same speech in a different city
On my last day as the wife to pity
Behind my smile beat a war drum
And when it’s my turn at the podium I said
Men and women with a cheatin’ spouse
Rise up and vote out this louse
Or he’ll treat you like his family
You can vote for me

etc. AMW

After Monday, she’ll be suing him for divorce…now let’s see; $4300 per hour x 24 x 365 days…jeeez….that’s some $37,000,000 + he’ll be owing in alimony.

This woman is like the majority of women out there, Statistics show huge percentages of men that cheat on their wives, and most of the time, the wife puts up with it. In essence she approves, looks the other way, when she KNOWS something is off. Most people just don’t want to rock the boat, start over, tell the truth., men and women, are both guilty ,but women accept this abuse over and over.

This guy has to rank as one of the dumbest brilliant minds of all time.

Though she stands beside him, anguish is written all over her face. She looks tortured and dazed at his side, and the shock of it all has probably not yet fully set in. Judging her harshly for standing by her husband as he confesses to this scandal of leachery and of the betrayal of public trust, is an act which, itself, deserves harsh judgement. She will do what’s right once the hurt is realized and she will make sure her children are taken care of, above all things. She has always seemed to be a loving wife and mother, so I do not doubt this. In the interim, however, she protects her children from further scandal by not storming off stage or beating him with the microphone at the podium; she behaves as a lady would because she is a lady. I have nothing but the utmost respect for her, and I will keep her family in my prayers. God Bless You!

I have to say that Silda is the most beautful woman I’ve ever seen and I hope she dumps Elliot in a trash can on the side of the road. I would walk through Hell to have a woman like Silda by my side - I can’t believe that someone as stupid as Elliot dumped on her and acted the fool three ways to Sunday!

George Elliott-Applegate

[Her looks are wearing off (certainly in comparison to the hottie Elliot rented!) and she’s too old to restart a career.]

- Posted by SR

Interesting comment. You must be quite young to think that a woman who holds a law degree from Harvard would have any trouble starting a new career at her age. She’s what, 46-48? After her children move out she can have a long and fabulous career.

As far as her looks go, I’d like to see how “hot” anyone could look after being blitzed by the news that her husband has been spending their family money and time for years on over-priced street tramps, carrying who knows what diseases.

Keep in mind that she is twice the age of this latest one. Somehow I doubt this girl will look anywhere near as classy and beautiful as Silda by the time she is her age. More likely she will age badly, like most women who live her lifestyle. Her bloom will not last long, sir.

It is not anybody’s fault. This is the way evolution evolved us. In other words were not responsible for our actions, it’s society, the environments fault.
It’s all in our genes.

It just hit me! She is not mad at him, she is mad at us, the people who are messing with their lives.
Silda told him not to resign…..she is a reptilian also.

Why should SHE be criticized here or anywhere?

Why does the media encourage a vindictive feeding frenzy and demands for MORE SCHADENFREUD? Could it be because that is the dangerous and unhelpful role of the media - to over-dramatize, reduce, and commodify any human story into some stage managed falsehood that sells cars, soap, and an ever reinforced belief that everyone is truly awful and worthless (hence they should freak out and behave all crazy in public where the ‘journalists’ cameras can get a good shot of it and then exploit it to sell everybody some garbage they don’t need).

RUN, SILDA RUN!!!!!!!!!

Thank you DOE!
People’s private lives and affairs should remain private. Unless the goverment funds have been misappropriated there is nothing to discuss. He was a good governor as a politician and he accomplished a lot. We did not elect him to monitor our sex lives. I wouldn’t want Dick Cheney commenting on how I should handle my 3 girlfriends. Great and powerful people in history frequently had affairs but it did not diminish their accomplishments. As far as what’s happening to the man’s family life has nothing to do with us or our opinions. Those who perceive themselves as fish-wives - standing on the corner immersed in gossip, should go back to Hollywood news. Are we so bored with our lives and unwilling to challenge ourselves mentally, that we would rather discuss someone elses life instead of experienceing our own?

It’s beyond me why women join their husbands on the podium when they’ve committed such offenses. What’s the point? Isn’t it an exercise in useless humiliation? Are women like Silda Spitzer so weak and desperate that they’ll do anything to keep the creep? Hillary did the same thing, but, in her case, you can see the political reasoning.

Some of Colin Powell’s rules should apply here:
2. Get mad, then get over it.
10. Remain calm. Be kind.
12. Don’t take counsel of your fears or naysayers.
13. Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.

Ahhhh. “Dr.” Schlessinger thinks that women are partly to blame when the male cheats. Typical bullsh*t from someone who had to fill her TV audience with paid actors.

So it would be Silda’s fault if he got another woman pregnant or if Silda contracted a STD because he decided to not exercise self control? There are more consequences to infidelity besides broken hearts and bruised egos. The one being cheated on now has to worry about their present and future health.

Hopefully she will go on with her life alone with the kids while cleaning him out in the process.

From first hand experience, Mrs. Spitzer made a TERRIBLE mistake.

I was 15 years old when we found out my father was having an affair with my best friends mother. EVERYONE knew, except my mother and us children.

My mother tried to “stand by her man”, tried to “work it out”. I didn’t feel sorry for her, sadly…I felt hatred and CONTEMPT for her.

I had been raised to be an independent girl, taught that girls can do ANYTHING in this world. Then I got the reality check of watching my mother grovel to my father, stand up for him, try to “work it out”.

Mrs. Spitzer made a terrible mistake. I can tell you that I still see my mother as extremely weak during that time. How can a woman let a man humiliate her, destroy her, take advantage of her, use her…and still stand by him. She should have sent another message to her 3 teenage daughters. She SHOULD have NOT stood with him, and explained to her girls that NO MATTER WHAT, a womans self respect, dignity, and self worth is more important than ANY man…even her husband. She should have used this to teach her daughters how to be strong, independent women…not use this opportunity to show them that a man can walk all over you, destroy you, humiliate you..and you will still stand by him.

It’s sickening and totally disgusting. Her daughters are already scarred, thanks to their father. IF they are like I was, now they are scarred additionally by watching their mother be humiliated on national tv and not having more self respect than that.

Ms. Silda Wall, hang in there, you will not only prevail but you will rise and you will be a rock and an amazing role model to your daughters. Do what you will with your marriage, that is no one’s business but yours. Good luck, kid, you’ll do fine. Just so sorry that you had to go through all this.

Has anyone considered that Silda wants to put a face to her own strength? As if to say, “I’m not hiding. I’m not shattered. I’m not devastated. I am the mother of this man’s children. And for THEM, I stand here. And for ME. So, look at my face. Question my decisions. But don’t wonder if I’m in the fetal position somewhere. I am standing. I am breathing. I am HERE for my children. I’ll deal with him…..later.”

No one ever deserves to be cheated on whether they’re a bum on the street or the governor of New York’s wife. He’s a dick and that’s the only way to look at it. TV newscasts bring up these stories on how it might be natural for men or some other b*llsh*t like that. Because of this whole fiasco, Mr. Eliot Spitzer just got his own Dickipedia article. It’s funny as hell and he obviously deserves it.

http://www.dickipedia.org/dick.php?title =Eliot_Spitzer

I for one can not get the image of a devistated and shell- shocked looking Silda Spitzer on TV and in many newspapers as her husband, Elliot Spitzer announced his resignation. I am especially sad that all women don’t rally to support Silda and her choices at this horrible time in her life. If you read about her life before this incident instead of jumping to judge her, you would know that she was a very private woman who entered into politics with great reservation and who gave up a law career she loved to be there for her daughters and husband. How on Earth do we expect a woman to act who in a blink of an eye has had her entire life shattered and who has gone from being one of the most respected women in NY to now seeing her life become a humiliating story all over the media. There is something very wrong with a society who turns a prostitute into an instant millionaire and blames Silda for being the victim. I expect this reaction from some men but not from women. As women I thought we had fought the fight for all women to have the freedom of choice not just for our bodies but for the choices we make for ourselves and our children. Unless you have walked Silda’s very public walk, instead of judging her actions when she still probably doesn’t even know what hit her, perhaps you should think about offering her your support and kindness.

So, who are clients 1 through 8? And who gets the #10 spot?

As I am not american but french, I do not want to blame americans, but I am always extremely surprised by their taste for sexual scandals and the lack of separation between sex and politics.
My intention is not to blame or excuse Mr. Spitzer, but his “transgressions” have nothing to do with his political ability, except if he used public money.
Please understand me well : I would be very harsh and uncompromising if there had been any trace of sexual perversion as sadism or paedophilia. But, in this case, I only find a taste of scandals among some journalists who do not make the distinction between information and garbage.
There is some hypocrisy and perversion to always search the flaw and spread scandals.
Nevertheless, Mrs. Spitzer is a perfect example of bravery and dignity and her response to these events magnify her.