Comments on: Soundbites but no solutions in French “virginity lie” case http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/ Religion, faith and ethics Sat, 23 Apr 2016 23:25:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.5 By: John Andrews http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/comment-page-1/#comment-3997 Wed, 04 Jun 2008 20:35:45 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/#comment-3997 In the article posted on Drudge (maybe this one, as well, i didnt read all of it) it never even mentioned one big, very important fact concerning virginity: You can be a virgin and not have your hymen. So basically: On your wedding night you may not be able to ‘provide proof’ of your virginity. You can lose your hymen many ways. Rape, use of sex toys, even by just playing sports. And the longer you wait to lose your virginity the more likely it is that youll break your hymen accidentally. So its absurd that you need to provide proof.

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By: some guy on earth http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/comment-page-1/#comment-3989 Wed, 04 Jun 2008 14:19:03 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/#comment-3989 Big Mac and Karima Alavi said it all, there’s nothing to add.

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By: Tom Heneghan http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/comment-page-1/#comment-3988 Wed, 04 Jun 2008 14:17:11 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/#comment-3988 Karima Alavi, you put your finger on an important part of this debate. There is an unmistakable assumption of cultural superiority in a lot of the comments being made (and in general when French politicians speak about Muslim women). The politicians talking about this seem to think they know best, but at the same time their solution — reversing the annulment — means putting her back into a marriage she was happy to be out of! Few of them ever address this part of the story.

There has also been a big misunderstanding over the initial reaction of Rachida Dati, who first said the annulment option was there to protect women. Dati herself was pushed into an unwanted marriage by her family when she was in her early 20s, and she used this same paragraph in the civil code to get out of it. When she said that yesterday in the National Assembly, she was booed. She is so unpopular for other reasons, however, that she had to bow to the pressure and ask for an appeal to overturn the court ruling. And she defended herself by lashing out at the opposition with some exaggerated accusations against them. So she started out providing some light but ended up producing much heat as well.

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By: Karima Alavi http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/comment-page-1/#comment-3987 Wed, 04 Jun 2008 13:26:47 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/#comment-3987 Here’s a kinky idea: stop treating the bride as if she’s a brainless fool who needs French feminists to come to her rescue. This underlying assumption of cultural superiority is utterly appalling. LISTEN to her plea for everyone to get out of her business, and allow her to think for herself and handle this between herself and the attorney she has hired! In many ways, this assumption of superiority being spewed by the soundbites is just as bad as the treatment she’s receiving from her husband. Give this women her freedom: from both the man she’s unhappily married to, and the domineering feminist “experts” on HER situation. (And now, I bow out of her business, permanently. No further comments from me)

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By: Big Mac http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/comment-page-1/#comment-3981 Wed, 04 Jun 2008 10:27:20 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/#comment-3981 The question is not about virginity, its about a “lie”. The wife did lie to the husband and they were married under false pretense. Whether its a big lie or a small one, depends on ones own moral values. But it is a lie, the bride and the groom should have informed eachother about past relationships before the marriage. Isn’t it the right thing to do ?

” Women’s sex life should remain private” …really, even hidden from her own husband? Isnt marriage about being open and honest to your soul mate ? Let the marriage remain annulled…don’t make the life of the couple more miserable.

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By: Anna Katharina Pondelik http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/comment-page-1/#comment-3969 Wed, 04 Jun 2008 06:51:32 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2008/06/03/soundbites-but-no-solutions-in-french-virginity-lie-case/#comment-3969 It is outrageous!! Firstly, the behaviour of the groom: Can he prove to be a virgin? And going straight back to the reception: Has he no sense of privacy? I thought, bed-matters would be something private… seems, I was wrong.
But, as the groom has turned out such an unloving person, just let this woman get out of this – I mean, who would want to stay married to some guy like this?
I don’t know if french law can be changed just like that, but there is a definite need for taking ‘no virginity’ off the list of allowed reasons for filing a divorce. For, this is France in 2008 and not in the 19th century.

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