Comments on: GUESTVIEW:When it comes to clergy misconduct, take off those stained-glass specs http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2009/11/25/guestviewwhen-it-comes-to-clergy-misconduct-take-off-those-stained-glass-specs/ Religion, faith and ethics Sat, 23 Apr 2016 23:25:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.5 By: SurvivorGirl007 http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2009/11/25/guestviewwhen-it-comes-to-clergy-misconduct-take-off-those-stained-glass-specs/comment-page-1/#comment-26900 Thu, 04 Nov 2010 19:44:38 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/?p=9875#comment-26900 This is a huge issue. Clergy Sexual Abuse (CSA) and Clergy Sexual Misconduct (CSM) are rampant in the church. Congregations must be educated right along with clergy. A paradigm shift is needed: Priests/Pastors do not have “affairs” with members of their congregations — they ABUSE them. That power differential between pastors and parishioners renders relationships nonconsensual. The priest/pastor is always the one fully responsible for establishing and maintaining appropriate boundaries. Some helpful sites to visit are www.faithtrustinstitute.org, www.tamarsvoice.org and www.thehopeofsurvivors.com.

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By: Lori http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2009/11/25/guestviewwhen-it-comes-to-clergy-misconduct-take-off-those-stained-glass-specs/comment-page-1/#comment-22554 Mon, 30 Nov 2009 21:16:43 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/?p=9875#comment-22554 It is always good to see the issue of clergy sexual misconduct (CSM) in the news. This is an issue that causes so much tragedy but no one really wants to talk about it. Religious denominations and houses of worship cannot police their own and have proven to be worthless in handling cases of CSM. The victim is usually blamed and shunned, while the perpetrator is either “forgiven” and allowed to stay or is quietly moved to another congregation where no one knows about the other victim or victims (usually if there has been one victim there is almost always others). The time has come for Congress to enact a federal law that holds members of the clergy to the same eithical standards that physicians and mental health practitioners must adhere to: no sexual behavior with patients and/or clients and/or congregants – whether or not the clergyperson has ever counseled the congregant. Clergy hold tremendous power in the lives of those they minister to – they have access to every part of a congregants lives – therefore they have a sacred duty to protect their congregants. This means hands off! Clergy sexual misconduct (ABUSE is a better word here) needs to be against the law – my only question is: why isn’t it against the law NOW???

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By: Karen http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2009/11/25/guestviewwhen-it-comes-to-clergy-misconduct-take-off-those-stained-glass-specs/comment-page-1/#comment-22379 Sun, 29 Nov 2009 00:49:22 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/?p=9875#comment-22379 My former husband was removed from his parish for committing clergy mis-conduct with a parishoner. He has since married her and is pastor in another denomination. He went into that church representing himself as a legitimate clergy person. When that church body found out what he did and said he could not be there the church left their denomination for him. Many of the men who do this are narsissists. The continue to do this in parish after parish. Lay people are not trained to recognize pastors with charactor disorders. They are master manipulators. So many churches have been very damaged by people who are so damaged they should never be in any pulpit. Seminaries should also become bettor at screening those who will be in that kind of leadership position.

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By: Catherine http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2009/11/25/guestviewwhen-it-comes-to-clergy-misconduct-take-off-those-stained-glass-specs/comment-page-1/#comment-22188 Thu, 26 Nov 2009 07:24:09 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/?p=9875#comment-22188 Elizabeth, you have done a great service by throwing off the glasses themselves and telling it like it is. As a victim of clergy abuse, I know first hand how the victim is labeled as the perpetrator and the real perpetrator–the priest– is labeled as the victim. The priest that abused and harassed me had done the same thing to two married women before me; I was the one brave enough to file a formal complaint with my diocese, and though the appointed Diocesan Investigator found my story to be true, and that of the other women, I was dismissed from my job as administrator and denied benefits that were rightly mine. I was the one put on administrative leave, not the priest who violated my life and trust. You are right, we trust these people in spiritual and “moral” authority way too much. Congregations tend to believe the perpetrator more than the victim. It is sad but true. Your article hopefully will open the eyes of the blind so that priests no longer get away with illegal and immoral behavior.

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By: San Diego Jerry http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/2009/11/25/guestviewwhen-it-comes-to-clergy-misconduct-take-off-those-stained-glass-specs/comment-page-1/#comment-22184 Thu, 26 Nov 2009 05:42:36 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/faithworld/?p=9875#comment-22184 It’s good to read the message that people just looked the other way at our church’s when we were being sexually abused. It’s also good to hear why! Category as an issue to understanding that these abusers are ruining not only our lives but all around us. People need to understand and place predator people in the right place. Take off that pair of stained glasses. It’s real and it happened to me and another 1500 hundred people I’ve worked with including ex-NFL players and Senators in Denver and Maryland. This is a sickness and people need to understand. Don’t fight the victims when we come forward. As of yet I’ve not been assisted by any clergy member at getting the message out that we have to keep an eye on the clergy. I’m on a rant and going no were now.Stained Glass windows keep the cold outside wile the hypocrit’s hide inside.

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