Comments on: Cameroon Catholic archbishop calls same-sex marriage a crime against humanity Religion, faith and ethics Sat, 23 Apr 2016 23:25:07 +0000 hourly 1 By: TiagoFigueiredo Sun, 30 Dec 2012 00:53:14 +0000 Dear brother Victor,

For 11 years I have lived with another man, whom I sometimes call companion, friend, lover or brother. We have our differences, but we value our likeness far more.

We met in what still feels like a paradoxically cursed and blessed moment, in the midst of promiscuity but, from there onwards, walking forward through the highs and lows of a search for our own self and mutual respect, honesty, trust, friendship, brotherhood and faith.

We’ve been through our own hells on earth, fears and guilt, more or less suffering and difficult teachings of life. Even when, like now, I find myself reading in your words that same-sex marriage is a “crime against humanity”.

While I could easily find some sense of hell in reading such words, I am left with a far-reaching and infinitely stronger sense of heaven in the knowing that you are somewhat right and somewhat wrong and that same sex relationships appear to have been a fact of nature and life well before the dawn of humanity, regardless of our limited understandings and misunderstandings of their purpose in the balance of all things.

In a time with a fast disappearing human population, “same-sex marriage” might be seen as something to fear, if not a warning sign for which I rather be thankful for. Why? For the very same reason one might worry about priesthood, in such extreme circumstances. Neither promote, in practice rather than speech, the continuity of life.

But in our current time, “same-sex relationships” are more likely part of a natural solution to balance out the exponential and unsustainable growth of humanity over our planet. And the genius of the solution? It’s completely painless, unless we consider the lows of every relationship or even our fears about it. No need for poisons, rifles, ropes, hateful speeches and other instruments of suffering and death.

For at least over two centuries, world leaders, including Christian leaders like Rev. Malthus, have been actively searching and praying for a solution to the fear of an unsustainable growth in human population and its eventually dreadful consequences.

Isn’t life beautiful and perfect in its imperfections?
Is isn’t it kind and gentle, whenever possible?
We both realise that we ought to be careful for what we ask for and that not all medicines in life are sweet, but we also realise that the taste of any given spiritual medicine begins in our hearts before eventually reaching and being thrown out of our tongues, just as a human is a conscience our soul manifested in a material world or just as “same-sex marriage” is more than the mere material expressions of it; the very concept, the words we speak, the papers we sign, the rituals we follow or even the news we read about it.

We know we are being guided and that life brought us together for a number of causes and effects and, trust, for a purpose. Even now, as your own life crosses mine in such circumstances.

This is enough.

Our bond is a simple blessing in a sometimes apparently difficult and lonely path. And even though we realise we are not alone, perhaps one of the most tiresome aspects of it is the tiring noise and flashes around and about it all. Through our own times and ignorance, we rather focus on our practice of reconciliation with our fears, others and ultimately life or even God, towards a time of peace and mostly free of suffering.

Until then, we’ve named our two adopted twin brother white cats Clara and Xico, perhaps so that, with their names, we remember more often the value and beauty of humility and brotherhood, as we climb over all the stones in our spiraling spiritual staircase.

We also call them “brothers and lovers”, in that order, projecting onto loved young brothers the feelings of brotherhood and love we receive and do our best to share with each other and those around us.

And that is also enough.

Be well, in peace and light.


Tiago Figueiredo