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Since he’s been gone



Susan Lapinski of New York City is an award-winning journalist who co-authored the book “In a Family Way” with her late husband, Michael deCourcy Hinds. The opinions expressed are her own. Thomson Reuters will host a follow-the-sun live blog on March 8, 2011, the 100th anniversary of International Women’s Day.

There are more than 13 million widows in the United States of America, and sadly, I am one of them. I miss Michael, the six-foot-five-inch leprechaun I married, for a million reasons–maybe most of all because he made me laugh every day we were together.

“You’re Catholic, so you can’t divorce me!” he would often tease, as if the religion I’d been raised in provided some kind of magical insurance policy against going our separate ways.

Ah, but I wasn’t going anywhere. Michael too was a writer, and we collaborated on absolutely everything—wondrous children; the dilapidated homes we bought and hammered into shape; a jukebox full of our favorite music from the 60s and 70s; the diary of parenthood and many magazine pieces we co-authored. Despite our different writing styles we were always able to mesh ideas, blend voices and share a byline. And so we moseyed on through life, side by side and hand in hand.