Comments on: Surviving as a woman in urban India http://blogs.reuters.com/india/2009/06/08/surviving-as-a-woman-in-urban-india/ Perspectives on South Asian politics Thu, 02 Jun 2016 08:03:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.5 By: kohinoor http://blogs.reuters.com/india/2009/06/08/surviving-as-a-woman-in-urban-india/comment-page-1/#comment-13003 Thu, 25 Feb 2010 12:52:26 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/india/?p=1252#comment-13003 My message is in reply to Poritosh’s comment dated June 8th 2009.The kind of thought with which the blogger has posted the blog and poritosh has replied dates atleast half a decade back.Firstly girls irrespective of a male sibbling are fortunate enough to receive decent upbringing if not pampered.This is not confined to metros but as well as tier I,II cities and smaller places in India.Gone are the days when younger sisters were elder brother’s old winter pullovers or use his school text books.And neither do girls grow up with the mentality of thinking about themselves,own wardrop,makeup kit,finally marriage and life after that.In todays time while schooling ,they start shaping there mind in order to select the convinient career path.They are responsible,optimistic ,trendy ,career conscious,satirical and at the same time undertsanding.According to me this is beyond gender,its an individual element.

And as far as Delhi is concerned and its comparison with other metros,it is no doubt scary when it comes to gender humiliation.Other metros definetly differ in tone and feel of the city.A 20 year old girl walking in ashram, gk, daula kuan area of Delhi at 10.30 pm would surely feel a difference while walking through Whitefield area of Bangalore, which is an outskirt .

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By: Roopak http://blogs.reuters.com/india/2009/06/08/surviving-as-a-woman-in-urban-india/comment-page-1/#comment-12686 Tue, 19 Jan 2010 08:51:28 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/india/?p=1252#comment-12686 I think the Indian mindset prevents us from treating women with equality and that will take a long time to change. My personal view is that we we have to create avenues/ services which empower women and give them the freedom to break from shackles which are imposed by society in general and by men in particular.
Freddie Mercury was right in saying “I want to break free” and though that was about being gay, it pretty much applies to women in India.

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By: P_K http://blogs.reuters.com/india/2009/06/08/surviving-as-a-woman-in-urban-india/comment-page-1/#comment-7830 Fri, 26 Jun 2009 06:01:04 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/india/?p=1252#comment-7830 The patriarchal society that most of us have accepted without questioning is a result of our upbringing which to an extent is influenced by the media. Girls have always been taught not to drink, smoke or have multiple boyfriends but the same teachings don’t apply to boys. A modern Indian woman is given the freedom to express herself only to be questioned by the majority of society. This stereotyping and narrow minded perspective will not change till vital institutions such as the media do not change their outlook on the girl. For example, several Hindi serials, that have become a staple diet for a most Indian families, portray a “good Indian” girl as someone who only dresses in Indian clothes, never goes out at night without a man and does not have any ambitions for herself. While the “bad Indian” girl is always portrayed as someone who only wears western clothes, goes out at night with a man and gets drunk to a point of no repair with only one shot (that is very rarely if at all possible!). Reality is different! Good girls can have ambitions for themselves, go out without a man and have a shot without getting drunk. Till the media, one of the most influential tool, does not take a responsible stand on educating women and families about the reality of being a girl change will take forever!

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By: B Shantanu http://blogs.reuters.com/india/2009/06/08/surviving-as-a-woman-in-urban-india/comment-page-1/#comment-7444 Thu, 11 Jun 2009 06:57:19 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/india/?p=1252#comment-7444 It gets worse:Taliban in India

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By: SN http://blogs.reuters.com/india/2009/06/08/surviving-as-a-woman-in-urban-india/comment-page-1/#comment-7443 Thu, 11 Jun 2009 05:44:00 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/india/?p=1252#comment-7443 Agreed perverts exist in a city like Delhi,but most of the problems you mentioned arent country or city specific.This could have happened anywhere.Indian society has been a patriarchal one, so ladies serving men first has been a common thing, correct/incorrect I aint going into it, but out of respect/subservience, it has been happening.But this happens only with the ladies, if even as a girl you were made to sit, I am sure either you didnt show too much intent to eat / you really belong to a very orthodoz family.It aint general to “urban” India.Nothing personal, at the cost of being called a Male Chauvinist Pig, I would say your article is a stereotyped story of ab “abala naari” , getting harassed.It aint about “Urban India” ,its about the male tendency to crave for sex and this happens eveywhere aroung the world.Having said this, I do not support the tendency, but from an article point of view this one has no content and makes a boring read

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By: Misbah http://blogs.reuters.com/india/2009/06/08/surviving-as-a-woman-in-urban-india/comment-page-1/#comment-7442 Thu, 11 Jun 2009 04:37:11 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/india/?p=1252#comment-7442 I agree, the problem lies in the very basics of our society and the “stereotypes” embedded in our culture. Unfortunately, we are so used to these things happening around us that nothing really shocks us.Mutual respect and treating genders equally needs to taught at a very early stage in every household.

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By: VA http://blogs.reuters.com/india/2009/06/08/surviving-as-a-woman-in-urban-india/comment-page-1/#comment-7441 Wed, 10 Jun 2009 23:33:22 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/india/?p=1252#comment-7441 In many ways India has not changed at all, inspite all the economic growth. It makes me nauseous just recalling the grooping in buses, markets and just walking on the roadside. It used to make me feel dirty just being touched by weird disgusting men/boys. Women have never been respected in India, though we pray to Goddesses. The mothers need to teach their sons how to treat women. But, these men and their moms dont respect other women unless its their own. Women are looked at as objects, parents trying to force their daughters into early marriages, restricting their education and future. Having been in US for years now, I can truly say that women do have the power, freedom and respect.

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By: rajeev http://blogs.reuters.com/india/2009/06/08/surviving-as-a-woman-in-urban-india/comment-page-1/#comment-7440 Wed, 10 Jun 2009 15:48:07 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/india/?p=1252#comment-7440 These problems cut across geographical boundaries–just the degree varies.

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By: Aman http://blogs.reuters.com/india/2009/06/08/surviving-as-a-woman-in-urban-india/comment-page-1/#comment-7439 Wed, 10 Jun 2009 15:35:01 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/india/?p=1252#comment-7439 The problem is more acute in Delhi and NCR than in other metros. In Mumbai I have seen women travelling alone at late nights too. Though I wouldn’t say it is completely safe but yes it is relatively safe here. I have been to Delhi and I must say I didn’t quite like the place.The problem Is with the way men are brought up there and also with the skewed sex ratio. In all the overall mentality of the population over there and this includes the women too. The mothers more than the fathers should make their boys realize the importance of respecting a woman.

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By: jatin http://blogs.reuters.com/india/2009/06/08/surviving-as-a-woman-in-urban-india/comment-page-1/#comment-7438 Wed, 10 Jun 2009 15:09:27 +0000 http://blogs.reuters.com/india/?p=1252#comment-7438 i agree that girls are not safe . and i think it can be changed only when men and women both will think about it and do some thing . specially the mothers . because they have the power to change their children . if they cannot teach their children (specially son) then they have to see whatever is going on . i know what a mother(parents) can do .that does not mean that women would have fun of these making fool the men . this issue is for all . after all every one have same rights in India.and about the guest … its our tradition .. if you this should be broken then its on you ..i think whole world is was running for women and will run for women …

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