Comments on: Happily single in India? Don’t count on it Perspectives on South Asian politics Thu, 02 Jun 2016 08:03:22 +0000 hourly 1 By: Sandy_Cmy Thu, 27 Feb 2014 19:43:23 +0000 I’m 35 male from Bangalore. Love to be single, but also love to meet educate women with respect to their choice of staying single. However, I feel it is quite difficult to meet another self respecting single without they doubting your credentials. Is it true among majority of Indian singles ? Sometimes it makes you think …. how wonderful it would have been if we could be happy singles and have some consensus romance too. I’m I expecting too much .. ?

By: saranyaiyer Mon, 30 Dec 2013 04:54:21 +0000 @Swati1717 – You described my current situation to a tee.More power to you!

By: Bangalore681 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 05:15:18 +0000 Women education is means to strength herself in the society and educate her children.

But the otherwise is happening.

More women are into career, put the children in some top school with fat fees, and later can they expect their children to be like them ? When their mind is totally or partial into Career.

Women must understand that family comes first, then career.

I’m in 30, I expect to marry a women of age 22 to 27 and not below.

Mr.Right has settled down or been taken of the marriage market.
Its high time women understand this nature.

The Leftover women of China is also happening in India.

By: vinodhindia2 Tue, 07 May 2013 18:50:32 +0000 Diksha,
your words “but to an average Indian, having a single 40-something offspring is like a death sentence.” is harsh. But anyway thats the truth .

By: Venkat_Akkineni Wed, 20 Mar 2013 02:30:57 +0000 I agree with most of the article, but, unfortunately you lost me with a reference to Rahul Gandhi. How does Rahul Gandhi claim that he wants to be an “anti status-quoist” ? by inheriting the Congress party and The Democratic India ? Find better references, you work for Reuters.

Let’s say this, the day journalists stop using Nehru-Gandhi family as crutch to their argument and as an escape from better journalism is the day when indians will change en-masse.

By: jamhotjammin Tue, 12 Mar 2013 11:11:19 +0000 I am afraid that Diksha and Rahul have so little in common, that the supposed likeness used in this article will completely go in vain. Maybe Diksha ought to have asked the lady on the train to mind her own business before writing this article.

By: rcomment Sat, 09 Mar 2013 15:42:31 +0000 1. An individual is far more changeable in his/her views preferences than society at large.

2. Changeable views of an individual can easily swing to-and-fro on all topics including marriage, multiple times in his/her lifetime.

3. OTOH, societies are aimed at greater good of all people, not just a few individuals and hence constitute culture – shared common code of conduct for social living. Culture as a social tool evolves, gets refined and strengthened over millenia, by cleansing itself of time-bound purposes and practices – an essential requirement for culture to survive through the ups-and-downs of time-bound natural/human events.

4. Refinement/strength of a culture expresses itself in the power of its language and scriptural knowledge – aimed at bringing together the experience of all the countless lives (both human and divine) lived in its mainstream.

5. Hindu culture has strength of Sanskrit language and Vedic/Puranic scriptures, not found anywhere else! Not all cultures are strong in the same sense, and hence there are differences in strengths as well as cultural pitfalls.

6. Some individuals view these differences as options and some as opportunities available to them to fit their individual karmic &/or instinctive propensities – usually at their personal risk and potential gain/loss of what they have already been-through/acquired by the time (12-16 years of age) they are mature enough to make so-called choice.

By: Swati1717 Sat, 09 Mar 2013 10:39:35 +0000 I am 25 and still single. Its not because my parents are not enthusiastic to find me the best match, but because I have intentionally turned down their frequent requests for almost past 3-4 years. I receive frequent calls from my relatives and they kind of remind me that time is running out. And its recently that I cleared my intentions to remain unmarried for rest of my life in front of my parents and close friends. No one is happy. Its an ugly situation where everybody inquires you about your future plans and how you will manage? I work and live alone in New Delhi. Its not easy but what you do? you cannot marry anyone just because he earns well and is educated and comes from a good family background. You cannot marry for comfort and security? But sadly thats what people do. that is exactly what the society expects from us.

By: Indrajoy Fri, 08 Mar 2013 05:52:30 +0000 The difference lies in the culture of different societies. In the west being single (i mean not being married) and still being with someone or having an affair with someone is not considered taboo. In India, its considered sin irrespective of how much educated the person is.So if you are single and not having a casual affair, you are still safe in India. But if you do decide not to marry and have an affair (because you are a human being and you like to be loved), it’s as if you have sentenced yourself to death. The change that is needed in the society is the way marriage is being considered. It should not be taken as a mandate rather a willful promise to someone to be with him/her all your life. And if you don’t find that someone, it’s better not to marry and still fulfill your carnal instincts.