Comments on: India tries to move beyond its rape culture Wed, 13 Apr 2016 01:13:45 +0000 hourly 1 By: jackman30 Sun, 29 Dec 2013 11:23:57 +0000 I meet my Indian girlfriends abroad who tell me how amazing it is to walk around any time of the day and night and not be worried about getting harassed or raped. It makes them feel empowered and free and I cannot tell you how that must feel. It is truly amazing.When the person smokes these

By: thoughtbubble Fri, 23 Aug 2013 14:53:38 +0000 I am an Indian woman living in the UK for the last 5 years. Being harassed in public or private spaces is very common, so common that I imagine most of us have become immune to it. When the rape story spread here, I found it became a joke for my non Indian friends. If one of them went to a party which had men from the Indian subcontinent, the first question asked to them would be “Hope you didn’t get raped!”
I work with my boss who is Chinese and she tells me that Indian men are renowned for being lusty.
I find it difficult defending my culture in matters like these.
I feel happy that Indian men are getting a bad rap abroad. An Indian boy is treated like a Prince! He is literally spoon fed by the mother, aunts, grandmothers and then demands his wife do that for him. He will mistreat his maid and spout filthy jokes about others’ mothers and sisters. If he is rich and can afford a Skoda, he will not think twice harassing poor women on the pavements from the comfort of his air conditioned car, or girls returning from their shifts at the call centre. He will do this not alone, but with a bunch of others. This is a “night out with the guys” . He will lear at women from South East India because they dress in western clothes and are hence “easy”. The most common porn search in the country happens to be the “bhabhi” or sister in law. He will sing tunes of songs that are about “teasing” where a hundred extras and the hero sing and dance around a hapless actress until she says “YES”. He does not look at the actress in minimal clothes gyrating in front of other men as an empowered individual confident of her sexuality- he looks at her as someone who is “easy”. God forbid if you’re a white woman or even Anglo Indian.
These are stereotypes and not everyone is the same. I have travelled alone around India many a times often shaving my head to make myself look ugly and unattractive so I can see how beautiful some parts of the country are.
I meet my Indian girlfriends abroad who tell me how amazing it is to walk around any time of the day and night and not be worried about getting harassed or raped. It makes them feel empowered and free and I cannot tell you how that must feel. It is truly amazing.
When I am faced with people who ask me about Indian men, you can understand my dilemma.

By: TheUSofA Mon, 31 Dec 2012 22:05:13 +0000 @CaptnCrunch

“What if that girl or her boyfriend had had a pistol?”

I see. Well let’s use this logic of guns are good for everyone. So what if even half of the attackers had had a pistol? Seeing as there were six of them, that would give them three pistols. Though in an ideal NRA world, everyone would have guns so all six would have them.

I’m not a fan of Bloomberg but his criticism of the NRA as being a paranoid, dystopian vision to be correct.

Why do you need to own a bushmaster? Fine you like to shoot it. Go to the gun range, rent it and shoot away. Why do you need assault rifles? No discussion of gun control is allowed at all?

The NRA is like any other Washington lobby that is concerned about profits and is deft at wrapping itself around the flag to insure those profits.

As to the authors article, I can only hope that this is a tipping point in India and soon other nations. Even in industrialized nations rape is still under-reported.

By: CaptnCrunch Mon, 31 Dec 2012 15:20:17 +0000 A horrific gang rape resulting in death in India and you had to throw in digs on gun ownership in America John? What if that girl or her boyfriend had had a pistol? Would she still be alive? Oh, never mind, the British stripped the Indians of firearms two centuries ago.

It’s a rough world out there and machismo is still more common than not. You and I may know that women are absolutely our equals and sometimes our betters but it’s not the common denominator.

I’m all for chopping rapists balls or heads off, and I’m also all for women carrying leverage to ward off attack. Pistol, stun gun, pepper spray, whatever. Don’t be a victim.

By: dajma Mon, 31 Dec 2012 09:07:35 +0000 For countries around the world, governments have become insensitive towards atrocities met by individuals. What matters is defence budgets. Security in cities doesnt seem to be priority.

By: rcomment Sun, 30 Dec 2012 09:43:16 +0000 U.S. got its independence through guns, so they cannot easily let go of their legacy of violence even after 200 years – even if 20 innocent children lost their lives.

OTOH, India got much part of its independence through the working out of the well-researched Hindu/buddhistic/jain-istic religious principles of “Non-violence” and this Indian socio-religious legacy is showing up in Dec,12 protests with “No-tolerance” stance for “Violence against every single woman” – In 1947, Indian woman didn’t gain the kind of independence that is reflected through women’s authorship(rishika) of parts of lofty philosophical and holy texts as far back as the Vedic era.

Evidently, its not the no. of years but the culture that the people of a land inherit from their ancestors that really lives on and re-creates the identity as well as decides the future course of a society.

Therefore, any comparison between U.S. and Indian societies on the basis of democratic governance alone is a lame approach – because Indians have the obvious advantage of a couple of millenia of intensive social research on the principles of non-violence, social justice & social & religious living which serves as a shock-absorber.

By: Wantunbiasednew Sun, 30 Dec 2012 00:01:24 +0000 Situation of majority (50%+) of Indian women and children is much worse than situation of lowest 5% of US pets (dogs and cats). I do not lack of dignity to this poor human beings by saying that. These are sad facts of malnutrition and exploitation. The story of raped woman is shocking so it flies across mass media. The stories of 100+ milion Indian children that are hungry every day and 10 million of them will die before age of 10, because of malnutrion and lack of healthcare not so much. While I was writing this post, it took me about 10 minutes, about 20 children died in India out hunger and lack of antibiotics.

By: zhanyeye Sat, 29 Dec 2012 03:05:13 +0000 ….and Indians are US best friends in that part of the world.

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