Comments on: Q & A: Uncovering the hidden agenda Grow your own Thu, 26 Mar 2015 12:32:24 +0000 hourly 1 By: johndawson Tue, 07 Feb 2012 10:51:21 +0000 One of the other elements you probably need to consider is the difference between a conversation with one or two people and talking to an audience. It’s hard to judge what a large group is thinking because we tend to think blank faces are judging us. Blank faces in groups are normal.
So reaching a group can be hard unless we understand what is going on.
We, as speakers, still tend to look for approval because we are still using normal conversational skills in front of a group. But on the whole we don’t get approval signs when we speak. So you might be thinking that you know their hidden agenda (they think you are boring) when you are interpreting the wrong signals. They are just listening. We need to re-think the audience and need to re-think how we are in front of an audience. It’s a fundamental of public speaking that tends to get missed. It seems to catch a lot of people out and during my courses you see the a-ha moment when we explore this point. So to be in front and to have trust in yourself learn how to be ease with blank faces – then you can probably see their agendas better.
John Dawson, Bath UK